Of course, there are exceptions to this. If someone steals (or if you'd rather refer to it as kidnaps) my dog, I can be very upset ...that not being an indication that I'm wrong. And certainly, I'm not talking about whether a person is right or wrong according to occasions of braggadocio either. This is not referring to remarks concerning whether the University of Michigan is going to beat Michigan State University in football. (It is amazing though, how mad people seem to get over that.)
That aside, and getting back to the general idea of being wrong ...most people don't want to be. And often they take a firm stance ...which may or may not be hurtful to others.
Often times we may be told we are being hurtful. And sometimes we may be called 'haters'. We don't have to be in bed, or be visiting someone in one ...to have poor bedside manner, or a bad approach. A simple disinterest may come across as being insensitive.
Yet, insensitivity may lead to a perception of callousness ...and once offended, a shared insensitivity can lead to an exchange of careless insults ...which are unnecessary & unproductive, and often wholly nonproductive (with no resulting solutions).
Margaret Thatcher said, "I always cheer up immensely if an attack is particularly wounding because I think, well, if they attack one personally, it means they have not a single political argument left." And that is often so very true.
Others use their own sensitivity as a shield ...and a defense against a battle they themselves define ...to judge others by saying others are judging them. And they claim others are insensitive and intolerant.
Josh McDowell and Bob Hostetler describe in their book, The New Tolerance, that the new tolerance demands that you not only realize a difference in views, but that "you give your approval, your endorsement, your sincere support to their beliefs and behaviors." And they are rather intolerant towards amyone who does not share this view of tolerance.
That aside, and getting back to the general idea of being wrong ...most people don't want to be. And often they take a firm stance ...which may or may not be hurtful to others.
Often times we may be told we are being hurtful. And sometimes we may be called 'haters'. We don't have to be in bed, or be visiting someone in one ...to have poor bedside manner, or a bad approach. A simple disinterest may come across as being insensitive.
Yet, insensitivity may lead to a perception of callousness ...and once offended, a shared insensitivity can lead to an exchange of careless insults ...which are unnecessary & unproductive, and often wholly nonproductive (with no resulting solutions).
Margaret Thatcher said, "I always cheer up immensely if an attack is particularly wounding because I think, well, if they attack one personally, it means they have not a single political argument left." And that is often so very true.
Others use their own sensitivity as a shield ...and a defense against a battle they themselves define ...to judge others by saying others are judging them. And they claim others are insensitive and intolerant.
Josh McDowell and Bob Hostetler describe in their book, The New Tolerance, that the new tolerance demands that you not only realize a difference in views, but that "you give your approval, your endorsement, your sincere support to their beliefs and behaviors." And they are rather intolerant towards amyone who does not share this view of tolerance.
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